Need a user manual for life? For me, that’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. From dependant, to independent to interdependant, and then rinse and repeat for the the different roles in your life. Like other self-helf books? Excellent chance it’s a reframe or deep dive into these concepts.
| Progression | Chapters |
|---|---|
| Dependant (Them) | l1 |
| Independent (Me) | l2 |
| Interdependant (We) | l3 |
| Renewal | l4 |
Very funny, in the 7 habits of highly effective teens they list the anti-habits. Very funny when you see them listed out …
| Anti Habits | Description |
|---|---|
| Be Reactive | Let your negative emotions run wild |
| Begin without a destination | Don’t think where you’re going |
| Start with least important | start by minutia |
| Think Win Lose | How can you make sure others aroudn you lose |
| Talk More; Prented to listen | You already know the answer, why bother listening |
| Never Co-operate | |
| Wear yourself out | You can always have more coffee and crash |
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I use the concepts in this book as the basis of my self improvement and coaching. To help me internalize the 7 habits, I’m creating video summaries of the key concepts.
A little picture I drew when I’d just discoverved the 7 habits …
Sharpen the saw
- Did you do your habits today?
Begin with the end in mind
- Re-read your eulogy
- What does success look like
- How are my outcomes different when I begin with the end in mind?
- What legacy do I want to leave?
- This week, what relationship can I invest in?
- Who is most affected by my mission statement?
- Am I over investing in one role at the expense of another role?
First things First
- Stay in quadrant 2
- What one thing can I do, that if invested regularly, would have a tremendous positive influence on my life?
- What quadrent am I spending most of my time in? What is the consequence?
- How many of my crisis could be avoided if I sepnt more time in quadrant 2?
Sharpen the Saw
- Is technology helping me, or is it hurting me?
Be Proactive
- Pause between stimuls and response
- Who has helped me be grow?
- Stop using reactive language
- Use empowering lanuage (I choose, I will)
- Is this in my circle of incluence, or circle of concern?
Synergize
- How can I compliment someone around me?
Think Win/Win
- If it’s not WIN/WIN, it’s LOSE/LOSE.
First Understand
- Imagine an eye doctor tried to make you use their glasses