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Wearing a silly hat, his trusty folding bike at his feet, and using a purple fountain pen, Igor “Began with the end in mind” with the “important but not urgent” task of penning this eulogy, likely starting at 5am. Igor wanted this life, so he wrote it, he reviewed it, he lived it, and he worked with his family, friends, and multitude of mentors, to adjust and tweak it.

Currently the purpose of my eulogy is to guide me in living my life. As death gets closer, the purpose of this eulogy will transform into enteraining others at my funeral

For many of my roles, I’m still figuring out who I want to be, and how I will achieved it, so this list is not yet in priority order. The fleshed out sections are the easy ones to write, because, well, they are the easy ones to write :)

As a dealer of smiles and wonder

Juggling fire, making cards change colors at a spectators command, or passing coins through a spectator’s hand – Igor lived to see eyes go wide and mouths gape with wonderment. Igor especially loved it when strangers got drawn in against their inner objections, or when a kid having a meltdown, or a grown up looking miserable, had their frown turned upside down.

  • To File
    • Handing out bells
    • Original Smile Service
    • Silly hats/clothes
    • Constantly had props with him and practicing.
  • Archived links
  • To live
    • Juggle passing with fire
    • Story telling voices
    • Smile Box Art Installation
    • Putting on a show
    • Being a master of ceremonies
    • Going to random juggling/side show/magic convention.
    • Volunteering for sick kids.

As a guy who loved living car free.

Igor took a strange pleasure in not driving. Riding his folding bike, or making a long day of public transit with Zach and Amelia. Igor would take the kids on the bus, to the train, to the airport, to ride the airport elevators, just to reverse the process and head home so he could enjoy his kids, and the bus, without spending a dime.

Igor loved living in the city so he could walk Zach and Amelia to their school and local library. Igor also loved the subway station 10 minutes from his home, which when combined with his folding bicycle let him get anywhere in the city car free.

Igor was especially fond of his folding bicycle which let him look goofy, be incredibly practical, and carry around the things he loved. Nothing made Igor happier then having the kids on the folding bike.

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    • Produced Song: Two wheels full of grace
    • Igor had a tendency not to lock his bikes, and till he was 37 all of his bikes were stolen.
    • Carried to 1970’s bikes everywhere he went on 2 internships (biking
    • Biking to work 30 miles @ 6am
    • Enjoyed biking so much, even when didn’t do it for year, still thought was doing miles per day.
  • Archived links
    • Long Touring Bike Trips
    • Keep forgetting how much I enjoy my bike riding
  • To live
    • Bike touring with Family.

As a guy who lived the 7 habits of highly effective people.

Igor became enthralled by the 7 habits of highly effective people, and used it as his personal life guide. He created a 7 habits video series so he could better understand the concepts and teach them to others.

As a fit guy.

Igor knew physical health was the source of his energy and acted accordingly. Every month Igor pledged his weight would be 140lbs, and he put 1000$ on the line to make sure he never renegged on his pledge. Igor valued his cardio vascular endurance and tried to run a fast 4 miles 2 to 3 times a week. Igor also tried to incorporate biking into his life whenever possible: biking to work, biking to doctors appointments, and even biking the grocery store (which was not efficient nor effective, but enjoyable). Finally, Igor knew the importance of sleep, and always woke up @ 5am. When Igor was having trouble getting enough sleep, he’d cut his caffeine to make sure his body forced him to get the sleep he needed.

It took Igor almost 40 years to get his weight under control sustainably. At his most unhealthy, Igor weighted 230 lbs, and felt terrible. Luckily Igor’s good friend recommended Fat sick and nearly dead and Igor began juice fasting the next day.

Igor was incredibly grateful to his friend Ammon for teaching him about the weight pledge, and for being a weight pledge partner for over 30 years.

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    • How hard it was to stay warm.
    • Go to gym, even if it meant just going to the sauna
    • Toe Shoes
    • Squash/Fencing
    • Biking to work 30 miles @ 6am
    • Going to the gym and just going to the sauna if that’s all had energy for
  • Archived links
  • To live
    • Swimming
    • Exercising with Tori and The Kids.
    • Teaching Zach the importance of physical fitness.
    • 140 lbs sustainable.
    • Ad hoc Pushups and pull ups
    • Flexibility
    • Massages
    • Yoga

As an emotionally healthy human

Igor understood emotional health is the basis of his stability, and invested heavily. Igor started each day at 5am by recording his blessing in his gratefulness journal, followed by 20 minutes of meditation. Igor closed the day in a similar vein, a final 10 minutes of meditation and writing out what made his day great in his gratefulness journal.

Igor prided himself in being calm like water, and have a grand-mother mind he could apply to himself, and to others.

  • To File:
    • Able to understand and influence the emotions of others
    • Knew his triggers, and quick sands, and had effective strategies for dealing with them.
    • Able to control his emotions
    • NLP - Reframing ideas.
  • Archived links

  • To live
    • Meditation retreats?

As a husband

Becoming a husband started when Igor met Tori, and then took several twists and turns to get married. Tori really values her privacy so expect this section to be Tori light, and Igor heavy.

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    • Putting Tori’s creativity in the fore front without putting Tori there.
    • Tori being the man in the relationship - the wrench story, porch story, patio.
    • Incredible costumes
    • Incredible Chocolatiers
    • Zach’s+Tori about Mom being a job you can’t stop at 4pm.
  • Archived links
  • To live

Roles that are still in point form

As a Friend, Mentee, and Mentor

  • To File
    • Human/Feelings Meetings a forum for expressing emotions.
    • Treasured Friendships
    • In person and over skype
    • Mentee, Mentor
  • Archived links
  • To live
    • An awesome listener
    • Psychic - understood, but didn’t need to speak.
    • Could ask the “right question”
    • Socratic Method
    • Cultivated and nurtured
      • Scheduled
      • Topics
      • Mentors by role
      • Activity
    • Deep conversations, no fluff, by being vulnerable and open
    • Always welcome, since showed grandmother mind, gave the gift of attention, and psychic space.
    • Built mentor network
      • Helped him flesh out the eulogy
      • All walks of life
      • Saw value in each of them
    • Dropped in on the neighbors for fun - just hung out for coffee/bear
    • Everyone had a story, and Igor wanted to hear, and understand them.

As a father of a wonderful boy, and incredible girl.

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    • Seeing Kids Play Together
    • Teaching 7h/eq values to kids
    • School events
    • Public transit together
    • teaching kids to be active
    • Document thier adventures to savor later, and educate them
    • Teaching them to program
    • Seeing “raw humanity”
    • Being cool for other kids
    • I choose …
    • Enjoying family wasn’t easy - it’s a muscle to be built, and he built it.
    • How relationship improved when I started walking Zach to school.
    • Bragging about kids section.
    • Weekly Swimming
    • Weekly Dates
  • Archived links
  • To live
    • Being with kids recharged him
    • Being with kids inspired him

As an enjoyer of the great outdoors.

  • To File
    • Small house, forced them out of it.
    • Canoe, Kayak
    • Lived by lake and water.
  • Archived links
    • Scuba diver
    • Camping engagement link
    • 1970’s tent trailer
      • Patching
      • Getting rid of it, like getting rid of a curse.
      • Tent trailer down the coast to stay in OakLand in freezing cold with propane heater.
    • First camping trips
    • Camping with friends
    • 10 person tent
  • To live
    • Tent Trailer
    • Class C Motor Home
    • Bike touring with Family.
    • Appalachian Trail
    • The El Camino de Santiago

As a guy who goes to work every day

Igor didn’t finish writhing this section, but he did think alot about his dream job.

To file:

Roles I haven’t started writing yet


Disciplined, Deliberate, Daily

Discipline is hard. Frequently Igor’s discipline started strong at the beginning of the day/week/month but he’d fall of the wagon. Igor realized that was OK, and started his discipline again the next day. This embodied grandmother mind and being compassionate.

As someone with cognative health


As someone who made others happy through pleasure, flow and purpose.

  • How he treated homeless and strangers in passing

As a coder/technologist

  • Igor believed the perfect programmer was Anal retentive and lazy. While Igor was a 10/10 on lazy, he was only a 1/10 for being Anal. As a result, he relied heavily on automated tests, and very little on human process.
  • To empower his laziness Igor focused on tools that are easy to read, mutate and have excellent libraries. Python, and C# being some of his favorites.
  • Igor is a huge beleive in static typing, especially implict static typing.
  • Today, these have become the industry norms, which is great for Igor, because he can stop arguing about it.
  • Igor loved VIM, using it in as many programs as he could. Interestingly, as his career progressed he was able to use vim key bindings in every tool he used.
  • Igor’s coding principles - No duplicate code; Trust tests not experts; Log Bug then Whine;
  • Igor tried to develop in such a way that you could bottom up a design via excellent refactoring of implementation.
  • Igor read books on other languages just to see what better implementation patterns looked like.

Igor’s helper section

Writing Prompts

  • For each - split by common vs unique w/others:
  • How do I know when done this section
  • What am I most proud of
  • What stuff gives me the most pleasure
  • What activities give me the most pleasure
  • Changing I’ve incurred as I went through life
  • Big Ideas To Digest
    • Grand mother mind
    • Non-judgemental
    • Growth Mindset
    • Realize everyone is trying as hard as they can.

Unfiled ideas




  • To File
  • Archived links
  • To live